What would you rather be – kind or nice? These two sound very similar, but are totally different things. People seem to misuse these terms quite a bit so let me enlighten you.
Nice is being agreeable. Essentially, you make everyone else feel comfortable except yourself. You keep your mouth shut and bow down your head just to avoid confrontation and/or conflict. Nothing wrong with being nice once in a while, but there is something really wrong with overdoing it.
Kind is doing the right thing regardless of who is uncomfortable. It means fighting for what’s right without stomping on people. Treating people with dignity and respect while still calling them out on their bullshit. Kind is staying firm in what you believe and not compromising on your values.
After outing the guy who posted that vulgar comment on my photo on facebook, I was accused of not being kind when in actuality – I think the person was trying to say that I wasn’t nice. True! I wasn’t nice! It wasn’t nice of me to expose the guy. I was kind! All I did was to just post a screenshot with the hashtag #outthem hoping that he’ll learn something from this. I did not – in anyway shape or form – attack him. Funny thing is that most accusations of me not being kind came from men when – if I were a dude – I’d be pretty pissed of since guys like this give the rest of the men out there a bad name.
It’s funny how people have very little to say when a woman is being attacked, but a WHOLE LOT to say when she retaliates. No offence, but I will not stay silent. I would much rather be labeled as a drama queen than be that woman who keeps her mouth shut hoping that my daughter will not have to put up with this. In all actuality, I do hope she does have to go through this so she can apply the things she’ll learn from me. I do hope I’ll be smart enough to teach her that she can fight back as loud as she wants while being kind, that retaliating or calling someone out is not WRONG! No, it’s not wrong to stand up for yourself.
Keeping my mouth shut makes me nice, but I would much rather be kind!