….of the #outthem
It’s been a while since that happened and since I posted. I kept getting messages and reading comments about that little stunt that guy pulled on my page. Some people got what I tried to do, some didn’t. Curious enough – the people who didn’t are mostly men. You know, if I were a guy – I’d be a little ticked off about this because yahoos like this give men a bad name. Aren’t you guys tired to hear at every corner that all men are pigs? I sure as hell am. Just because there are a few out there who need to grow a pair, does not mean there are not wonderful men in this world. Unfortunately those have it hard.
So…back to the point… I was reading through the messages and the men who were bashing me were telling me that he meant it as a compliment and that I should be flattered. I’m sorry, what? Since when vulgar, sexual comments are compliments? Oh, oh , oh I see..he’s attracted to me. That’s fine! What’s not fine is him objectifying me while trying to express that. I swear sometimes I think the Do-Do bird laid one too many eggs…
Bottom line is that retaliating when being disrespected is a perfectly acceptable reaction. Nothing wrong with biting someone’s head off when they deserve it. Nothing wrong in holding someone accountable when they screw up. The problem today is that people expect and feel entitled to get away with the shit they do and that is reflected in our kid’s education. If I had a dollar for every child under the age of 5 who I saw being a rude and spoiled brad, I’d drive a Porsche Cayenne. Can I blame the child? No because the parents are the same. Kids learn 80% from what they see. Trust me, if you think your kid is not paying attention to you, think again. He is absorbing everything you do and say and it will bite you in the ass one day. I have a 6 month old. She is teething, but she has no teeth yet and she chews. She learned to chew from me. When we eat, she is in the high chair and I am sitting across from her and she saw me chewing and she started to mimic the motion. Monkey see, monkey do! That’s the first stage of learning and our kids will always try to copy us.
So that guy has that sense of entitlement. He said what he said without hiding and felt entitled to a positive response because that’s how he was taught. That’s what a lot of men his age do and that’s what’s trending in our society. Sadly, he didn’t take anything constructive away from this situation and the fact that he won’t do it again to me does not make me feel warm and fuzzy. He will do it again to some other girl and what ruffles my feathers is that a lot of women think they just need to brush it off.
The world would be a much better place if we didn’t brush anything off but, instead, we would tackle every single issue – big or microscopic – head on and we would stop shitting ourselves every time we’re being confronted.
Anyway…this is my ramble for tonight..